"The fully actualized self can acknowledge and experience the entire range of human feelings. To say we are incapable of rage, for instance, is to deny our inclination toward agression that helps us fight injustice in the world. We impoverish ourselves and others when we fear or inhibit our human powers. If we cannot feel all the polarities of human emotion safely and fully, how can we experience the equanimity that is so necessary to self-fulfillment?...When we become comfortable with anger we form an arc of connection that makes us feel we are whole and that others are, too. What propels and sustains us in intimacy is love that is comfortable with other feelings. Then anger is a normal and occasional reaction that never cancels out love. Nothing can...Thus, only a caring person shows true anger (as opposed to abusive anger), which opens to love."
- David Richo
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